Perception

Everyone has their own perception.

This perception is often created through our chain of experiences in our lifetime.

It is filled with the things, that are the ‘‘whys’’ to our defense mechanisms, our fears, our attachment or avoidant styles, and our reactions. All meaning; our triggers.

Figuring out someone’s perception will ultimately help you live your life easier. Heal through things quicker. Understand and talk quieter.

The loudest, the most outspoken people are often seen as dumb. Because they have a whole lot of nothing to say. In order to control this, you must learn the art of perception. That sometimes, changing your camera lens from time to time is a good thing.

That wiping your cameras, and mirrors is necessary. And you’ll learn with it, the different kinds of perceptions that exist in the world. And once you do, again, life will be easier.

You’ll then learn how to communicate with each perception type. And if you can’t at the time, you know, figure it out. Then you learn after. Kind of like the new points we have way after the argument.

But if you can get good at this, it’ll make more sense at the moment.

See our perceptions as people are all based on our individual experiences. But not just the things we had and didn’t have. Also how our parents treated us, what wounds they created, how they taught you communicate etc…

Suppose a loud and aggressive mom raised you. In that case, you’ll most likely avoid all types of peaceful confrontations too, because confrontation by itself, already feels attacking to you, so you’ll avoid it all together. Then you’ll have hard time sustaining relationships.

If you were raised by a kind loving mother, who used information you told her at the time later on, then you’ll learn to be a master confrontational communicator. You’ll ease their worries and know how to get away without telling her too much. And then in your relationships, you’ll be the mysterious person who never opens up.

These lists go on and on. I just don’t have the time to write down all of them… But you get the point no?

Once you can understand how people live their lives, and see their triggers, their reactions will make much more sense. And then you’ll come back to blaming yourself, thinking perhaps you could’ve approached them differently.

But the truth is, things happen the way they do, in the timing they do for .. well I don’t know, but learn to make peace with it.

Or - take action. Knowing this redo your mistakes, rewrite your stories. Go back and apologize to people, Tell them and enlighten them in the new wisdom you’ve gained during this time. Be open, be free, be communicative. This is the only way to heal the world. By speaking, instead of leaving things to overthinking.