Mind Spirit Soul
Mind Spirit Soul
"When we truly grasp the occurrences that shape our lives,
A world of wonder and artistry opens before our eyes.
Half of life's riddles, then, are solved,
And we are free to create a masterpiece, bold and evolved."
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Books I recommend
psa: I’d prefer to be real-life smart than book smart.
To be honest, common sense doesn't seem so common these days. Common sense comes from real-life experiences that provide knowledge and wisdom. I don't think books can achieve this. I mean, you can only truly learn from a text if you can relate to it, right? If you haven't experienced it yourself, reading about it won't help much.
Having said that, I strongly recommend those four books.
Because even though I said book smart, I still think we should read.
Too many benefits you’re missing out on if you don’t.
The best of you would get what I’m trying to imply here. You can read and read but if you don’t really learn from it, apply it, nor be able to analyze the text, then you’re still missing the most important thing. Your mind, your curiosity. If those aren’t awake, then just reading through the words isn’t gonna do much.
So my friends, enjoy life, read, and make time to think.
I can’t explain my addiction with the ocean, but it pulls me close everytime
This is a photo I took, I forget the location but… it was therapeutic,and I love the mix of birds with the sky.
How souls cross path..
Just because I love New York.
I hope you already know everything I'm about to share, but I believe that reading insights and reflections can help you understand them better. This space is for thoughtful individuals to come and read and to realize that there is much to discover in the depths of your thoughts. And to be able to take control of those thoughts to live a truly fulfilling life. A balanced, serene, and peaceful life.
I mainly write about concepts and life experiences that we all often ponder but don’t really get to talk about. I connect all of my experiences from feelings to the way I behave and spirituality. Connecting them all, once you do that work, life makes so much more sense and gives you this immense feeling of peace and joy. It calms you down and you become very aware, and conscious - continuing on your day to day life with much awareness and thought. You then act the way you’d like to, you and you start to feel less and less influenced by other people. This is all of our goal isn’t it?
My main areas of study are psychology (especially developmental) and sociology. I have been working with children for 10 years now, and have always been observant in the way of how individuality is affected by external factors. And through my experimental observations I have learned how to help raise positive, happy, confident children so that they do not repeat the mistakes we have made.
In short, I love observing the social effects on people. Yet, I like pondering why people become the way they are and looking at their chain of experiences - which I have grown very good at over the past 10 years- and offering them a solution- because at the end of the day I am a ‘‘red’’ person, and constantly seek for solutions.
If you’ve read the book "Surrounded by Idiots," I’d be a red and a yellow. Mainly red. But I’m also an empathetic, ENFJ- Sometimes I go through INFJ periods but even so, I think I feel like a INFP but my experiences guide me to act like an ENFJ.
How our childhood impacts us in ways we aren’t aware:
Every individual is affected by their past. Whether we recognize them or not. And I make such a strong statement because I experiment on many things I speak on. Because I don’t want to have spoken confidently on something that wasn’t proven.
Anyway, this diagram represents your spirit. It is the essence/side of you that gets influenced/affected through the things you experience, or the projections you internalize from other people/external factors- which in short is your spirit.
How your spirit is influenced
This list can go on and on but all of these small things soon become a trigger. Which is why we have many people in our lives that act the way they do- either too strongly towards something small or too small for something big. Because that specific moment/scenario triggers a feeling/memory in them that was engraved in them through the first initial similar experiences/scenarios they felt in their youth.
BUT
Control it
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Acknowledge it
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See it
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Control it • Acknowledge it • See it •
How do we control it though?
How do we grow from it?
How we even acknowledge it if we can’t see it?
How do we start to see it?
Here’s a short stoic story:
The Story of the Broken Lamp
Epictetus once observed a man grieving over a broken lamp. The man complained bitterly about his misfortune, blaming fate and others for his loss. Epictetus gently pointed out:
"You are not upset because the lamp broke; you are upset because of your judgment that it should not have broken."
And that thought of the ‘‘lamp should not have broken” was also something that was planted within the man, once upon a time through some sort of big emotional experience.
Epictetus taught that the first step in growth is recognizing that our suffering comes not from external events but from how we perceive and react to them. The man could not control the lamp breaking, but he could control how he responded. By changing his perception, he could find peace instead of torment. This is what I mean by words like ‘‘filter’’, ‘‘frame’’ and ‘‘lens’’. You have the power to control, to start you need to start with connotations and get rid of them from your life. Don’t see things with a negative connotation/meaning. Just receive it with an unbiased mind, an open outlook calling to every side of you to be able to give a just judgment on the scenario.
For example, I’ll give you a real life example from my own life. I am an incredibly clumsy person at times, but other times I am as smooth as the smoothest sailing ship. Whenever i would mess up, ie: drop something, spill something, or get paint on my clothes, I would get angry. I would feel guilty and embarass myself because my mother had made it a very important point to me since youth- that to be a well kept woman, one must be careful. So you see where the guilt and embarassing myself and cursing myself out as a reaction came from right? The fear of not being able to be a good woman, a female.
Anyways after I started living alone, when I started practicing mindfulness and seeing the seer, hearing the thinker within my own mind- one day I spilled the coffee while trying to walk back to the living room. Right there I felt this immense insult towards myself, is there one day you can’t fuck up? Why aren’t you careful? You made a whole mess, clean it up! How could you even …. blah blah blah.
to mysurprise there were two people within me at that moment, not to scare you - but there was my spirit who was beating myself up over this spill but then I heard it. I saw it. My soul felt bad for me, thinking you know it’s okay to mess up sometimes, at least you don’t mess up the important things in life. Be a mess, as this is a sign of you being alive too.
And since that point on, I took on being me with my crazy momentum and speed as an honor. That I have so much energy and life within me that sometimes my excitedness spills out. That I have a momentum worth learning and mastering rather than beating it up. And since then, I have learned to dance, move in ways I never thought was possible, be quicker, my mind and body feel happy to use my energy, and most of all- I am no longer opressed in my own body and life. I do not compress myself or hold myself in so much anymore because I’ve learned that who I am, is the best gift that’s been given to me, because when i am openly who I am, i am happy, and through this, those around me are happier etc.
You see how one thing affects another and how that all can suppress your spirit/soul/body into living an unhappy life? Learn from my mistakes friends..
So -
"How do we change from it?"
Recognize that the source of our suffering is often within. By altering our perception, we open the door to change.
"How do we control it?"
Understand what lies within our control—our thoughts, actions, and choices. Let go of what does not."How do we grow from it?"
Use challenges as opportunities to practice virtues like patience, resilience, and wisdom."How do we even acknowledge it if we can’t see it?"
Cultivate mindfulness. As Marcus Aurelius said, “You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”"How do we start to see it?"
Begin with self-reflection. Journaling, meditating, or even pausing before reacting can illuminate what was once hidden.
Live by your principles. Holding yourself accountable can provide you with the courage you need to continue. And the consistent self-reflections can provide you with the strength you will need to continue. It will give you the confidence that you can be true, and just, knowing you bow your soul before a creator, and that you hold yourself accountable to those things. Soul insurance. I believe is a good phrase to it.
Then you continue in the 3D with the mindset and eyes of a just, humble, and confident version of yourself. You stay true to yourself, so being vulnerable becomes a strength. You live authentically and don’t internalize other’s judgments. You are continuously self-reflecting so you continue keeping yourself in check, revisiting a vulnerable and more honest side of your conscious to look over how you have been living so it will bring humbleness in you. Yet because you do that, you can go back out into the world having confidence. And behave with confidence.
This is another secret, well hidden, that those who seek to understand will. It has so much value, that the more you understand the more you understand. Then the more you start to admire in life and the things God has given us; Many of which we can’t see with our eyes.
Lets continue shall we?
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