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"When we truly grasp the occurrences that shape our lives,
A world of wonder and artistry opens before our eyes.
Half of life's riddles, then, are solved,
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psa: I’d prefer to be real-life smart than book smart.

To be honest, common sense doesn't seem so common these days. Common sense comes from real-life experiences that provide knowledge and wisdom. I don't think books can achieve this. I mean, you can only truly learn from a text if you can relate to it, right? If you haven't experienced it yourself, reading about it won't help much.

Having said that, I strongly recommend those four books.

Because even though I said book smart, I still think we should read.

Too many benefits you’re missing out on if you don’t.

The best of you would get what I’m trying to imply here. You can read and read but if you don’t really learn from it, apply it, nor be able to analyze the text, then you’re still missing the most important thing. Your mind, your curiosity. If those aren’t awake, then just reading through the words isn’t gonna do much.

So my friends, enjoy life, read, and make time to think.

I hope you already know what I’m about to share, but insights and reflections can deepen your understanding. This space is for thoughtful individuals who seek clarity and control over their thoughts to live a balanced, fulfilling life.

I explore concepts and experiences we often ponder but rarely discuss—connecting emotions, behaviors, and spirituality. When you do this work, life makes more sense, bringing peace, joy, and awareness. You start acting with intention, feeling less influenced by others—something we all strive for.

My background is in psychology (especially developmental) and sociology. With 10 years of experience working with children, I’ve observed how external factors shape individuality. Through my observations, I’ve learned how to help raise confident, happy children who don’t repeat past mistakes.

I love studying social influences and understanding why people become who they are. Over the past decade, I’ve honed the skill of recognizing patterns in people’s experiences and offering solutions. At my core, I am a problem solver—a "red" personality type (from Surrounded by Idiots), with some "yellow." I’m an empathetic ENFJ, though I sometimes shift into INFJ or even feel like an INFP.

How our childhood impacts us in ways we aren’t aware:

Every individual is affected by their past. Whether we recognize them or not. And I make such a strong statement because I experiment on many things I speak on. Because I don’t want to have spoken confidently on something that wasn’t proven.

Anyway, this diagram represents your spirit. It is the essence/side of you that gets influenced/affected through the things you experience, or the projections you internalize from other people/external factors- which in short is your spirit.

How your spirit is influenced

This list can go on and on but all of these small things soon become a trigger. Which is why we have many people in our lives that act the way they do- either too strongly towards something small or too small for something big. Because that specific moment/scenario triggers a feeling/memory in them that was engraved in them through the first initial similar experiences/scenarios they felt in their youth.

BUT

See it

• Acknowledge it

• Control it

• See it • Acknowledge it • Control it •

How Do We Change?

How do we control our thoughts?
How do we grow from them?
How can we even acknowledge what we don’t see?

The Story of the Two Wolves

A Cherokee elder once told his grandson:

"Inside each of us, there are two wolves in constant battle. One is filled with anger, envy, greed, and fear. The other embodies peace, love, kindness, and wisdom."

The grandson asked, "Which wolf wins?"

The elder replied, "The one you feed."

This story illustrates that our struggles are not about what happens to us but about which thoughts and emotions we choose to nurture. We may not control external events, but we control how we respond. This is the foundation of growth—recognizing that our emotions and reactions are choices.

A Personal Reflection

I used to react harshly to my own clumsiness—spilling coffee, dropping things, making messes. I would berate myself, feeling ashamed, because I was taught that a "proper woman" must always be careful. The judgment wasn’t just about the spill; it was about the fear of failing as a woman.

Then, one day, I saw it.

As I scolded myself over a spill, a quiet voice within me spoke: It’s okay to mess up sometimes. You don’t fail at being a woman just because you make a mess. You are alive, full of energy—why suppress that?

From that moment on, I shifted my mindset. Instead of seeing my energy and momentum as flaws, I embraced them as strengths. I learned to refine, not repress, my nature. My movements became more fluid, I became more aware, and most importantly, I was no longer my own worst enemy.

Shifting Perception

"How do we change?"
Recognize that the source of our suffering is often within. By shifting our perception, we open the door to change.

"How do we control it?"
Understand what lies within our power—our thoughts, actions, and choices. Let go of what does not.

"How do we grow from it?"
See challenges as opportunities to practice patience, resilience, and wisdom.

"How do we acknowledge what we can’t see?"
Cultivate mindfulness. As Marcus Aurelius said, “You have power over your mind—not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”

"How do we start to see it?"
Begin with self-reflection. Journaling, meditating, or simply pausing before reacting can illuminate what was once hidden.

Live by your principles. Hold yourself accountable. True confidence comes from integrity, from knowing you are living as your most honest self. When you do this, vulnerability becomes a strength, judgment loses its grip on you, and you navigate life with clarity, humility, and conviction.

This is a truth often overlooked, but those who seek understanding will find its value. The deeper you go, the more life unfolds in ways unseen by the naked eye.

Shall we continue?

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